use the report to mod button and we have a mini debate behind the scenes, I was reported recently (well more than once to this date) and I left the moderating to "others" and I had no input into the decision
ps: things have been working reasonably well thus far and some are only up in arms since they were told/warned and suddenly everyone has a guilty conscience!
carry on as normal and I am sure anyone who steps out of line will be told by 1 of many methods, my personal fav is flaming tards, best option is to be mature and discuss (like we are here - semi mature at time I know)